Internet dating sites can feel like a giant sweet shop when you first try them out. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, to suddenly find yourself faced with thousands of eligible singles can be like a breath of fresh air!
How to use a dating site:-
Can I sit back and wait for them to come to me? No. Not unless you look like a supermodel–although that can often work against you, too. The super attractive types sometimes find that everyone else develops an inferiority complex and won’t make the first move because they think it would be a waste of a message.
In order to be successful at Internet dating, you have to adopt a proactive approach and go looking for dates. Once you have created a profile, you can spend many happy hours browsing through pictures and profiles on the hunt for Mr or Ms Right.
So should I contact hundreds of people?
Well that is one way to try it! If you send out 100 messages, you will probably get lucky. However, unless you develop a discerning eye, you can end up wasting a huge amount of time and effort contacting the types who will not give you a second glance.
Be realistic about your expectations. If you are a 50 year old guy, there is no point is messaging 20 year olds. Unless you have something amazing to offer them, like a bank account to put Bill Gates to shame, you will not get anywhere. The same applies if you are challenged in the looks department. There is nothing wrong with aiming high, but seriously, if you look like Quasimodo’s cousin, the girl who looks like your favourite centrefold is not likely to be interested.
Unless you have a bank account to put Bill Gates to shame!
I like the thought of a rich guy…
There are dating websites for people like you!
1> On a regular site, try searching based on the usual criteria such as location, age, and any other important attributes such as smoking. See what comes up in a first search and if there are millions of hopefuls, add a few more criteria to your search to narrow the field.
2> Do not be too picky and narrow it so far that you end up with one guy. He might be Mr Right, but it is far more likely not to be the case. Try not to be too obsessed about looks. Not everyone photographs well and somebody who has a bad picture might be lovely in real life. Pay more attention to what they have written in their profile.
3> If all they can come up with in the blurb is that they enjoy a bottle of wine and a DVD, the chances are strong that they do not have much else to talk about and a date will be like extracting teeth.
4> Read profiles carefully. They are your first defence in weeding out the unsuitable types. What puts you off is likely to be a personal thing. Bad spelling and an inability to string two words together always kills it for me, but not everyone is so bothered about such details!
5> Once you have a shortlist of potential dates, send them a short introductory message or a “wink” to break the ice. They might not be interested, but on the other hand, they might reply!